Recently, I’ve stumbled upon some realizations that have reshaped my perspective on life. These lessons have taken me years to uncover, but I share them with you now in the hopes of sparing you similar struggles. Here’s what I’ve learned:
We cannot change the way people are; instead, we can change ourselves, to act differently, and to look at things differently. When you add more patience, compassion, and love, you’ll begin to notice gradual shifts in their behavior. It took me 30 years to realize this, and I want you to know it sooner, so you don’t have to suffer like I did. We often allow our ego to play games with feelings of hatred and jealousy. However, when you decide to act in different way, everything suddenly changes, bringing peace and making life much easier. So, don’t tie yourself up; choose the easier, more peaceful way.
Criticism serves as a dead end. Everyone is doing their best with the capabilities they possess. Whether it’s a criminal, a teacher, or an entrepreneur, each person operates within their own capacity. They are already doing their best with what they have. When you look at everything from this perspective, you won’t feel sad, annoyed, or hurt by other people’s actions. You can be more compassionate towards them, understanding that their behavior is their problem, not yours. Then, you can stop expecting people to behave in a certain way, and recognize that everybody’s actions just reveal who they are. So, don’t complaining, criticizing, just acknowledge and accepting the way people behave otherwise people will make you become crazy.
Changing habits can be incredibly challenging. Personally, I’ve struggled with this for quite long time. Instead of overwhelming myself with numerous resolutions, I decided to adopt a different approach: taking it slow. I chose to change one small habit each week, allowing my brain to focus on it without being distracted by my ineffective resolution list from before. For example, I made the decision to start waking up early to avoid being late for work. The night before, my brain would already remind me of this, and as a result, I had no trouble waking up early the next day. Surprisingly, I felt more productive, less tired, and my sales for that week increased rapidly. Once a habit became effortless, I moved on to the next one, gradually building upon my progress. By focusing on changing one small habit at a time, I’ve found it easier to maintain my resolve and especially it allows my brain to adjust slowly. This method has led to significant improvements in productivity and well-being.
Communication has never been my strong suit, but I’m fortunate to have friends who excel in this area. To overcome social awkwardness, I’ve learned the importance of connecting with people. It’s not about making them happy, but rather showing a genuine interest in them. The key is: People are narcissistic and love to talk about themselves, so you have to learn how to master it. Compliment them in an honest way. Ask them the way they do things and see them from their point of view, not yours.
Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your true self and a waste of time and energy. If you compare yourself to others, you’ll never be enough. You only compare the worst of yourself to the best of everyone else. It makes no sense. Second, again, stop worrying about what other people think. Who cares? Live your life. They are not living your life for you, and they don’t truly care what you do or think. They don’t even remember after a short while. So the key is to focus on doing what’s right for you and make yourself happy no matter what situation you are in. That’s what truly matters.
These insights have brought clarity and peace to my life, and I am forever grateful to those brilliant people who taught me these lessons. I hope they resonate with you as well.
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